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It’s The Me Blog! Staring Yours Truly

I probably should have been back to blogging by now, but I think I was putting it off. And that’s a weird statement because I really enjoy blogging. I love having an outlet for my thoughts. It’s the coolest feeling to have someone take the time read and/or add to a topic I wrote about. But yeah, I was putting off coming back. Why?

Seems I forgot I was introverted.

Luckily, Ellie Soderstrom tweeted this great article, 10 Myths About Introverts, that nailed down (a little too well) how I think. Here’s the part that really jumped out at me.

If the science behind the book is correct, it turns out that Introverts are people who are over-sensitive to Dopamine, so too much external stimulation overdoses and exhausts them.

Whether the science behind it is right or not, that type of exhaustion is something I’m very familiar with. Put me in a room with too many people, even if I know everyone, and I can’t figure out how to get in on the conversation. I still have a good time listening to everyone, but it’s too much input and I literally get tired and want to be in my nice quiet living room. It might sound like I’m anti-social, but it’s just how my brain’s wired. In small groups it’s tough to shut me up.

Enter social media.

The perfect outlet for an introvert! I control the input, so no matter how big the group, I could handle it. The problem was I was having a blast. So much so, I wanted to more. More blogging. More Twitter and Facebook. More new people. More , more, MORE! And when my personal life got more hectic, I still wanted to cram in the fun I was having. This is so not like me. It’s no wonder I totally crashed.

Could I have managed my time better? Probably, but I also needed to recognize my limits and apply them to my goals. I want to write for a living and blogging is part of reaching that goal.

So what do I want for this blog and how do I want to accomplish it?

I’ve been trying to come up with an answer since I took my break. I might be over thinking this into uber complexity, but I can’t help it. I think. Lots and lots. And lots.

Anyway, after all my thinking I’ve figured out what I want to do with this blog. Real simple.

I’m going to blog about whatever I want. I already was doing this, but in a way I wasn’t.

The last thing I wanted to do was write boring articles and thanks to my awesome readers I know that never happened. But some days I’d spend a lot of time trying to figure out what to write about. Part of that was because I had specific topics in my head I wanted to stick to. We hear all the time we should do this to attract our target audience. That’s good advice, but despite having plenty to say on the topics I chose, I still felt restricted.

I had a semi schedule of talking about writing stuff on Tuesdays and pop culture on Thursdays. I wanted to take that further and have specific topics and days I’d be talking about them, complete with shiny, catchy titles. Like Marvelous Mondays!, Tumultuous Yet Terrific Tuesdays!, Days That End With The Letter Y Wednesdays! and so on. It would’ve been awesome, but alas, my brain doesn’t march to the beat of that drum. My hats off to you guys out there who can do it. It’s much better for me to tell you what’s on my mind when it’s there without considering the category it falls in. So as of now, the one and only category for this blog is ME.

So what makes up ME?

Oh so much. I probably the most interesting person in the universe, so get ready folks, you’re in for a real treat from here on out. The only schedule I plan on keeping is a posting one and I’ve made it super easy for myself.

Thursdays.

A weekly gem of awesome that might be about what I’m watching, what I’m reading, random thoughts or something cool I learned and wanted to share.

I know other people struggle with what to blog about whether they’ve started one or are planning to. I’m sure this won’t be the last time I get all thinky about what I’m doing here. But I guess like anything else, if you’re not doing it for yourself first, it can become pointless. That’s where the joy of writing comes from for me. The selfish part. The part where if I was the only fan of my work, I wouldn’t care because I love what I’m doing. This is not to say my goals have changed. Making a career out of writing is still the goal, but somewhere along the way I lost sight of where I was going. I proclaim today the day I start getting back on track.

That ever happen to you? You get so wrapped up in achieving a goal, you lose sight of why wanted to do it in the first place?


17 comments on “It’s The Me Blog! Staring Yours Truly

  1. You know, when I’m around people, most of them would determine that I was an extrovert. I’m friendly and outgoing most of the time. But I’m like you…when in a large crowd, I sometimes have trouble jumping into a conversation. And I, too, get exhausted with too much “people time”. When I go to business conventions, and they are having a cocktail reception, I’m one of the first to leave and hole up in my cozy hotel room with my computer, my Kindle, and the TV. So I’m a closet introvert. LOL

    So glad to see you back, Andrew!

    • Thanks, Lauralynn! I’m glad to be back.

      I’m actually in awe of anyone able to engage in small talk. It’s almost like watching a magic trick. I just never thought I could be worn out the same way on social media. Looking back, I don’t know why I thought that.

  2. Awesome. Yes, it’s easy to forget why you’re doing what you’re doing and getting too caught up in what you think you should be doing.

    I think the people who are the most successful are the ones who do what they like and follow what they’re passionate about.

    • I was so wrapped up in wanting to tell you that, that I forgot to answer your question. I don’t know that I’ve lost my way, yet – but, I’m finally starting to blog about things that will sort-of relate to my WIP. Like this Friday – true crime (I love, my WiP is inspired by a true crime), West Texas (my hometown area, my WIP takes place in WT), and books (self-explanatory, right?). It won’t be every Friday, but it’s time to take at least a post a month and write about things that make me go Ooo in relation to my WIP. You know?

      • Cool! I ‘m a true crime fan. I think I’ve watched almost every show on Investigation Discovery. I love to see how the criminals are caught and what makes them tick. It’s fascinating.

        I think you’re doing awesome and a perfect example of what I wanted to go for with my blog, but it wasn’t happening. But that’s okay. I’m really excited about blogging again.

  3. I can’t even do the online bit, so you did well. šŸ˜€ I can talk for hours with one person that I know well, but small talk? Cue the stuttering fool.

    I think most writers lose sight of things. There’s a lot of emphasis on certain things we all “should” be doing when really, the most important part is the writing. The other stuff means nothing without it. And I know for me, if I try to force something, it doesn’t work very well, there has to be a motivation from pure enjoyment.

    With blogging in particular, I started out without a goal, then tried to make helpful posts, then got bored, then avoided, and now I do whatever I feel like. Even if that means not posting at all. If it’s a struggle, it’s just getting in the way of something more productive, imo.

    Make yourself happy first.

    • Hey, Claire! I know what you mean about talking for hours. My phone interview with you was so much fun. I could’ve chatted with you a lot more.

      And I agree about making myself happy first. Priority numero uno. I think this blog’s going to get a lot more FUN.

  4. That’s great news!! I can’t wait to see what you write about! =)

  5. Welcome back, Andrew. I’m glad you’ve figured out a blogging method that works. Blogging what you like, when you like… who would-a thunk? šŸ˜›

    • Yes, I do remember someone telling me I should blog like this, but I’m not a totally changed man. My head still might explode if I don’t have a designated day to post. I’ll never say never, though.

  6. Hi Andrew ( new reader here), Its great to hear someone else express how i feel in large gatherings. The smiling, the interaction they really do phsically and mentally exhaust me after too long and Im cringing inside and screaming to escape…When my first book was launched (in 3 diff countries) – sure i was excited for the book to finally be done and getting out there, but all of the activities and media work really killed me. I was sick for 2 months afterwards which also had to do with me trying to write an intensively researched book within 8 months, racing to meet an immovable deadline. I think people tend to underestimate the energy required for an introvert to be sociable. To interact. Ive been invited to speak at a NZ Leadership Conversation Series next week and im wishing i could just Twitter it! LOL

    And about the blogging thing – i started my blog way before i became an official author so its a personal blog with a close network of followers. I blog about my nutty life as a mom of 5 and everything else under the sun…Now that Im trying to build a social media platform etc, I read all the advice about stuff we SHOULD write about and stuff we SHOULDNT write about and it doesnt match my blog. Do i change my writing to match what the experts say i should ? Or do i keep doing what i love and say fudge it – this is me, this is who i am, this is what matters to me, this is the stuff that makes me laugh/cry/. Im going with the ‘fudge it’ option. If that costs me followers, then so be it. Im sticking with what i love.

    • Hey, congratulations on your book release!

      I think one of the biggest hurdles for me is small talk. The topics are so simple and my brain literally can’t think of them. I just want to get right to the conversation and that’s crazy because the small talk gets you there. I can imagine getting exhausted doing all your promo, but I do feel there’s a way to survive. In fact, in the post I linked to, the blogger mentions the book he got his information from and it’s all about introverts surviving in an extroverted world. I’m going to check it out.

      I’ve read a lot of expert advice too. It’s what made those people successful and a lot of what they have to say is good advice. It’s trial and error. See what works for you and make it your own. My mistake was to force their good advice when it wasn’t working effectively.

  7. Okay, now that I’m on board the ride can begin! Can not wait to be a part of your thoughts and passion through your blog. Do what you love and love what you do. If you have those two elements are in place then you will be content and fulfilled.

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