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Stupid Word Love: Volume 4

I’m not the only one writing stupid words. There’s tons! Way more than any mortal mind can consume, so I present the best of the best.

Should some topics be off limits on a blog? E.L. Farris delves into this in My Thoughts on Love and Marriage Vows. It’s quite beautiful.

India Drummond goes through, in detail, how she found her editor in Hiring a Freelance Editor. She did it all through social media and I was impressed with how thorough she was in vetting all the possibilities. Her method could easily be used to find a cover artist, agent or any other professional.

Newly published author, Myke Cole, has got the 18 Rules I Learned in my 1st Year as a Full Time Author. Definitely makes it sound more possible than ever to be published.

Wendy, at the Midnight Garden, is breaking the silence on The Selection debacle. It’s the whole story of, for lack of a better term, the shitstorm that befell her over a negative book review. I’ve never heard of her before this post, but now I’ll be following her reviews. Anyone who stands by their convictions and can defend what they’ve said without resorting name calling and other petty nonsense gets a big thumbs up in my book.

Anyone with an Xbox 360 who’s always wished to be able to play games AND stream from amazon needs to wish no further. Amazon Instant Video Arrives on Xbox 360 with Exclusive Features via Hardware Lust.

Courtesy of Entertainment Weekly, photos from the set of Iron Man 3! And not just any photos. These are photos of Tony Stark’s latest villain.

Missed a Stupid Word? It happens, even to the best of us, but FEAR NOT! Because at the top of this page is a tab that magically brings all the Stupid Word Love to you in a nice, neat little package.

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Describing Things The Way My Brain Processes an Image

Setting is hard for me to write. It’s always the point where I slow to a slug’s pace. I think the main reason for this is when I read, I never give the setting my full attention. Just give me the basics so I can concentrate on the dialogue and character arc. Not surprising, dialogue and character arc I do well.

Up until now, I thought I set the scene well enough, but I’ve been reading craft about plot and story structure, which has helped a lot. Unfortunately, (but really fortunately) strengthening those muscles has shown me how weak my setting muscles are.

To Amazon!

I decided on two books, Description & Setting by Ron Rozelle and Word Painting by Rebecca McClanahan. I started with Description & Setting. So far, so good. The early chapters give techniques for being more observant like carrying a notebook or journaling. There’s a chapter coming up about using the five sense for description, which isn’t something new I’ve heard, but it got me thinking about how the brain processes an image.

When we see, for example, a car, the reason we know it’s a car is because of our memories. But we don’t have a memory file labeled “car” in our brain. When an image comes up the optic nerve, our brain pulls data from numerous parts of our mind and puts them together to tell us what we’re looking at. The shape, size, color and a host of other traits are combined so we’re able to say, “That’s a car.” It’s a complex system and I want to bring that to my writing.

Sometimes a tree is just a tree, but if that tree will work to set a tone or build on my character’s mood, it can’t be just a tree. It has to be more than just a tree so the reader can connect on the same level as I do. If I want a reader to feel like they’re at the coffee shop with my characters, I could say coffee shop and most everyone will know what that’s like. But why stop there? Why not compliment their memories with some details? Obviously, the balancing act of when I need more description or scene setting is mine to figure out.

I’d like to finish Description & Setting this week, so I can put the lessons to work right away.

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Stupid Word Love: Volume 3

I’m not the only one writing stupid words. There’s tons! Way more than any mortal mind can consume, so I present the best of the best.

I’ll start things off with an excellent post by Michelle Davidson Argyle, What Blogging Has Become. She talks about where blogging is going and what she thinks the purpose of one is. Her thoughts are totally in sync with what I want to do with this blog.

In Labels: Writer vs. Author, Zoe Winters makes a clear distinction of what writer and author means and which one she thinks we should strive for.

I found a new tech site, Hardware Lust, and read TWO awesome articles. The first, Running Burns Calories and . . . Charges Your Phone?, is about a gadget in development that stores energy while you run. Energy you can use to charge your phone! Very interesting. The other, Twitter Now Offering Tailored Suggestions For Who To Follow, explains a new system Twitter has for finding like minded people to follow. Definitely sounds better than the seemingly random system they’ve got going now.

I figure most people have seen The Avengers by now, so from The Editing Room via Cracked I bring you, If The Avengers Was 10 Times Shorter and 100 Times More Honest. For those against laughing their heads off, skip this one.

Next, I’ve got an older post from Susan Bischoff you should check out called Are You a Darcy? Susan’s not blogging much these days and this post gets into why that is. Part of the reason is her desire to “amaze the whole room” and those feelings go all the way back to her days in school. The fact that this post is months old should tell you the importance I see in it. It’s also my transparent way of encouraging Susan to blog more. I chat with her all the time and a lot of her opinions in those conversations would make great post topics.

And last Stupid Words for this week is from James Scott Bell via Writer’s Digest, Oh, You Can’t Learn to Write Fiction? Really? It sets the record straight on the myths of writing fiction.

Missed a Stupid Word? It happens, even to the best of us, but FEAR NOT! Because at the top of this page is a tab that magically brings all the Stupid Word Love to you in a nice, neat little package.

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The Digital Age of Embarrassment

Last Sunday the Billboard Awards were on and one of the major events of the evening was Chris Brown lip synching through his set. Why, I don’t know? I assume a lot of singers do it. Especially if they’re running around doing all kinds of dance moves and acrobatics. Anyway, I read an article the next day about some celebrities taking shots at him on Twitter about his performance. I read the tweets and they were nothing I’d consider worthy of any concern. To me, they were neither mean or particularly funny. Among these was one from, this model, Christine Teigen. Here it is:

“Why sing, when you can dance?”

That’s it. I doubt Chris Brown really cared, but his fans . . . WOW. They spent the next few HOURS tweeting the most awful things to a girl they know nothing about. Some of them probably even never heard of her until that tweet. She let the tweets speak for themselves and retweeted everything, but once she’d had enough, in a serious of tweets she said this: Warning: colorful, but justified language ahead.

“You guys are too young for this shit. Too fucking young. How you can even form these sentences at someone you don’t know makes me so sad. Don’t throw around the term ho, cunt, slut. You’re women. WE ARE WOMEN. and don’t ever think a man can fucking control you. Seriously. this isn’t your fucking job. Stop being psychotic. Be strong women. Listen to opinions without spewing pure maliciousness. I’ve had comments ranging from ‘kill yourself you stupid HO’ to ‘gold digging cunt’ [to] ‘get a fucking job,’ etc. Because I don’t like [Chris Brown]? I like some of his music too. YOU can like it. You CAN. But WHY the insane hate and ‘team’?? Why can’t you just CHILL THE FUCK OUT? In all seriousness, and this has been entertaining, I’m so disturbed. What are you even doing this for? Some good music and dancing? Good god. DO BETTER.”

On the one hand, I’m in agreement with Christine about being sad and disturbed, but on the other, I like that the internet has made it possible to see who people really are.

I’m not one to take words lightly. I think everything we say, says something about our personality. And some people have a really shitty one. I mean, what’s going on in a person’s head when they can spew hate to someone that’s done nothing to them? It’s hate on a whole new level. It’s hate disguised as having an opinion.

Ashley Judd was recently in the news because rumors were flying all over the place about her good looks being the result of plastic surgery. She hasn’t had work and handled the situation like a lady. She also spent time talking to people on Twitter about it. Well, one person tweeted something really nasty about her looks and made sure to @ Ashley because she’s dying for attention. Ashley did respond. She asked this person, point blank, why she felt the need to say something so mean to her. The response was basically the I’m entitled to my opinion cop out, which tells me that this person is a coward as well as mean-spirited. Most people don’t have the balls to stand by what they say and on top of that, it’s like the internet has completely wiped people’s consciences. Behind the screen they’ve got this illusion of anonymity.

It doesn’t exist.

Who knows who’s out there reading your words? What do those words say about you? Would you mind if your family read what you said? We need to ask ourselves these questions every time our fingers touch the keyboard.

We live in an awesome time where we have numerous outlets to express our thoughts and connect with new people, but it’s not a license to tear others down with hate. Let’s make the effort to “Do better.”

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Talking Tricks and the Art of Conversation

I caught an episode of Monk while I was getting ready for work this weekend. If you’ve never seen it, it’s a really fun mystery series about a brilliant detective with the worst case of OCD you’ve ever seen. If that wasn’t enough, he’s got so many phobias, some of them are probably in existence because of him. Despite his afflictions, and because of them, he solves case after case, no matter how tough.

Part of the episode I watched involved a woman showing romantic interest in Monk. Needless to say, he freaked out not knowing what to do. His psychiatrist suggested calling her. He doesn’t have to date her, just have a conversation. In preparation, Monk worked out every conversational possibility and had them written out on index cards before making the call.

What an ingenious idea. If only there was a travel edition.

From time to time I find myself in social situations where I don’t know anyone in the room. And like any shy person, I run to the nearest corner where I blend in to the wall until it’s safe to go home. Being one with the wall gives you a surprising amount of time to think and observe the people around you.

The most obvious thing is that no one has a problem starting a conversation with a person they don’t know. It really looks like a magic trick to me. It does help that New Person has Person They Know to introduce him to Person They Know’s friend, but after that, New Person has to engage and talk. As my long list of failures can attest, not as easy as it looks.

My main problem is my inability to make small talk. All those basic “get to know you” questions never cross my mind. Just let the other guy ask the questions? Well, you probably didn’t know that I excel at one word or brief answers designed to lead a conversation into the grave. It seems like unless the person I’m talking to has an intense interest in something I’m intensely interested in, I have no conversational ideas.

The other problem is the group setting. I do far better one on one. It’s a struggle, but at least I’ve got a fighting chance. In a group, the majority of the people know each other and I can never figure out how to jump in to what they’re talking about. I’ve tried, but not too long after I have their attention, I lose it and they’re back to talking to each other.

At this point my narcissistic paranoia sets in.

I start thinking the group would be better off without me elbowing my way into their conversation. And as it’s going on in my head, I know that it’s not the truth. The group is actually a nice bunch of people who would be more than happy to talk with me if I HAD SOMETHING TO SAY. But since I don’t, it’s my way to justify my escape.

My wife is the total opposite. She can talk to anyone and when we’re out in social settings, she does most of the talking. I jump with some “yeahs” and a few “uh huhs” just to switch it up. But I overall suck at talking to new people.

Am I in similar company here or does anyone have some talking tricks to share?

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